Guys and girls being “just” friends. Not always easy, and sure as hell complicated at times. But yet, its fun. There are things that you just don’t talk about with your guy friends. That’s where the girl steps in, sweet, caring, sensitive - the little angels (hah!). There’s also a certain playful element to these friendships that you just can’t have with people of the same sex .

Here are some of the types of friendships that exist between guys and girls.

1: The Appeaser friendship

This is when the guy is head over heels for the girl. Worships the ground she walks on. Praises her all the time. Buys her gifts for no reason. Loves to secretly smell her hair. Agrees with everything she says, and does everything in his power to see that she is happy. Now and then gets a pat on the head in return. Dreams of fathering her children - will never get farther than perhaps having to baby-sit them. Might also have aspects of a Use-and-abuse friendship.

2: Leave-you-hanging friendship

Guy sees girl. Guy thinks girl is cute. Guy becomes friends with girl. Guy tells girl his feelings for her. Girl acts surprised. Girl might say “I’m not ready for a relationship right now”. Girl conveniently forgets to mention that she doesn’t like him in that way, and never will for that matter. Girl and guy still remain friends. Guy is hoping girl will eventually fall for him, or will become “ready” for a relationship. Never happens. Girl is just happy with the attention he lavishes on her - ego boost.

3: The Missed-Chance friendship

Guy and girl are great friends. There always was a spark, the chemistry was there. For reasons unknown to them, they always held a special place in each other’s lives. No one acted upon it though, and before you know it, girl gets married. Guy is still friends with girl - thinks the world of her. Friendship grows even stronger.

4: The Relationship-that’s-not-quite -a-relationship friendship

Guy and girl think they are best friends. While in actual fact, they are in a non-physical relationship. They do everything a couple does. Go to movies together, have candle-light dinners, strolls on the beach, endless phone conversations etc etc. But no one has admitted their feelings. Both are in denial that there is anything but a friendship going on. The rest of the world is sure they are going out. For the life of them, they can’t understand why.

5: The Use-and-abuse friendship

Guy is in love with girl. Girl knows this and loves the power she has. Takes advantage of poor guy, who is more than happy that he can be off service to her. Girl uses guy cruelly, and the best part is, she gets him to ‘volunteer’ to do things for her. How?

“I have to drop off my dirty laundry to the laundromat. But I’m so tired. I wish I didn’t have to go?” Followed by fluttering of the eyes.

Before you can say “use-and-abuse”, guy is already racing to the laundromat with her clothes.

6: The Complain-a-friend friendship

This is where the girl only remembers the guy, when she needs to complain about something. She calls him, or meets him, simply to vent about her problems. Guy may try to slip in something about himself, but girl is too self-absorbed to realise that, and brings the topic back to her problems. Girl keeps guy in check by telling him what a great listener he is, and none of her other friends are like that. Guy gets his doggy biscuit.

7: The By-my-rules-only friendship

This friendship can be in conjunction with any of the other types of friendships. Girl will only meet guy on her terms. Girl has full rights to cancel appointments that she made herself last minute. Girl also doesn’t need to return any calls made by the guy, but guy must be available at the snap of her fingers. Guy should expect nothing, except what girl decides to offer him. Take it or leave it.

8: The cozy friendship

This is when guy and girl are great friends. They’re totally comfortable in each other’s company, and have deep respect and trust for each other. They can speak their mind, and be at ease with silence. They don’t get overly emotional, and respect each others space and time. Can talk about absolutely anything under the sun. Guy and girl don’t think of each other in a romantic way - never crosses their mind. Has the potential to become ugly if one of them does start developing feelings.

9: The Hit-and-run friendship

This is an explosive friendship. Guy and girl become friends very quickly. They spend an insane amount of time together, and really dig each other’s company. Guy thinks girl likes him, and is leading him on. Makes his move and professes his love for her. She runs like there is no tomorrow.

Appendix: The ex-lover friendship
This type of friendship doesn’t exist. Don’t fool yourselves. A guy and girl can’t be just friends if they had a history together.

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Well, I did not write this article. I just stumbled on it while checking my email as well. It was forwarded by my batchmate at work. Now I know why I did not delete this….. This article made me think hmmmmm…. Everything starts from friendship. Isn’t it? It’s the way you manage it if you are attracted to your pal. You just have to decide if it’s really worth it to sacrifice your friendship with your selfish reason.

Just be true to yourself.

Inspired by the Dark Magician’s posts that came from her inbox, I tried to checkout my email as well and found this interesting poem about taking chances. Though, I fully believe in the quote “No guts no glory” and currently advocate of “Desiderata” sometimes getting the nerve to be true to thyself is everyones’ fear . I hope this poem inspire you.

NO ONE WAITS FOREVER
(source unknown)

Have you ever noticed
That the worst way to miss someone
Is when they are right beside you,
And yet you can never have them…
When the moment you can’t feel them
Under your fingertips,
You miss them?

Have you ever wondered which hurts the most,
saying something and wishing you had not, or
saying nothing and wishing you had?
I guess the most important things
Are the hardest to say
They are the things you get ashamed of
Because words diminish them.
Word shrink things that seemed timeless
When they were in your head…
To no more than living size
When they are brought out…
Don’t be afraid to tell someone you love them
If you do, they might break your heart…
but if you don’t…
you might break theirs

Have you ever decided not to become a couple
because you were so afraid of losing
What you already had with that person?
Your heart decides who it likes
And who it doesn’t
You can’t tell your heart what to do
It does on its own…
When you least expect it,
Or even when you don’t want it to

Have you ever wanted to love someone
With everything you had,
But that other person
Was too afraid to let you?
Too many of us stay walled
Because we are too afraid
To care too much…
For fear that the other person
Does not care as much, or not talk at all…

Have you ever loved someone?
And they had absolutely
No idea whatsoever?
Or fell for your bestfriend
In the entire world,
And then sat around
And watched her fall
for someone else?

Have you ever denied your
feelings for someone
Because of fear of rejection
Was too hard to handle?
We tell lies when we are afraid…
Afraid of what we don’t know,
Afraid of what will be found out about us.
But everytime we tell a lie…
The things we fear grow stronger
Life is all about risks
And it requires you to jump.
Don’t be a person
Who has to look back
And wonder what they would have,
or could have had…

No one waits forever…

Whatever things I have accomplished in my life, consider it as a gift. Everything I have right now have been because of the choices I made with the help of our God.I was raised to be independent and I really appreciate what my parents did to me. I don’t know if it’s my bane for some people hates moi for it.

If I made wrong decisions I may sigh about it and I try not to regret it but I don’t need to hear your opinion about it. If I need your opinion, I’ll ask for it otherwise just keep your mouth shut. I try not to show my bitchiness in everyway I can and for those who know me I could be a little ms. frank but you will always know I’ll not stab you in the back. Anyway, these are my favorite quotes  “Everything happens for a reason” and “You bleed you learn”. I don’t know what I’m writing about……