105How I Met Sherliez

posted by vernparsons on August 11th, 2010

It has been one-year now that I met Sherliez. Before I ever met her…I had what I thought was a “perfect” life and marriage. Me and my ex did without nothing, as I had been successful enough in my real estate enterprises. In the last months of my marriage to my ex…she shocked everyone with her infidelity and bad character. Never expecting that divorce could happen to me, I was forced to initiate the filing of it. My preacher/pastor even agreed that I must, and he also foretold that another path is being shown to me now, and that all things MUST happen accordingly. Shortly after…it’s only pure fate that I would meet Sherliez so soon after a divorce process. It was not a deliberate thing on my part…somehow we were placed in proximity, like gifts under a Christmas-tree. And we recognized/embraced the wisdom that was being shown to us. So here I am…always/only a westernized-male…and THEN I was not even divorced yet…and I am committing to an Asian woman so soon. Women outside of my own country were never on my radar. And being blessed with such “early timing” can make a person have skeptical thoughts. But resistance of fate and wisdom is futile. So my relationship with Sherliez, and riskily going to the Philippines against my budget, was inevitable…it HAD to happen!

Before meeting Sherlie and her family at their home in the Philippines, we were in constant daily contact. We talked for several hours each day thru the free online Yahoo Messenger service with web-cam and speakerphone capabilities. Additionally, we used instant-messaging and had countless text conversations. On most days, there are hundreds of pages of text conversation in just one single day, and many thousands in total throughout the period of our relationship. It may be unusual, but both of us are compelled and driven to spend every moment together that we can, including using Yahoo Messenger on the computers where we work, and staying at home whenever we are not at work so that we can be with each other online the whole time. The amount of time we have spent together, in terms of hours, is much greater than the documented calendar months for most couples.

We immediately became attracted to each other in every way. We are always well aligned and in-synch. We empower each other, intellectually combine, always make each other smile and laugh more than we otherwise would, and we are both capable of lasting love and happiness in the relationship. We are both very unique in ways that make our being together a necessity rather than a choice. We have similar educational, recreational, religious backgrounds in common. We are best friends and very much alike in so many ways: the way we think and express ourselves, in our sense of humor, our ambitions, financial habits, outlook on love and life, etc. We shared the sad stories and experiences of our local past relationships while setting rules for the future. We have probably discussed more topics than most married couples ever will, and still never run out of things to say to each other. We also play Chess, Scrabble, shop auctions and other activities online. We quickly fell in love with one another and started planning for the future. Knowing each other so well enough before ever meeting in-person, we knew we would marry each other and then exchanged engagement vows, opened up a joint bank account and planned for a honeymoon-like trip in the Philippines.

After I arrived in the Philippines and met my fiancée’s family, I gave her an engagement ring and some gifts for her and her family, and we all had a small informal engagement party/brunch. We then embarked on a very busy itinerary which included many activities while staying in different cities. Our time together was even more romantic than we could imagine. Now that we are physically apart again, the anxiousness and urgency of living together is overwhelming. And there are so many hobbies we want to be able to do together.

As soon as the visa is approved, we will have a small church wedding with my family in the United States. Eventually, we would like to have a second wedding with my fiancée’s family in the Philippines. Meanwhile, I own my house in the Atlanta area, which is where we will live. The house is a large 2-story home without any mortgage. And the utility bills are very low. So financially, we also have a very good start on our lives together. If Sherliez wanted to, she could have a great career in the Atlanta area with her education and skills already, without needing to reschool or further her education. Whatever she decides to do, me and my family will support her. But our plan is that after we are both working for a couple of years in this area, we will have a child. Both of us are sort of older for never having any children. And we also plan to work together to reestablish my real estate business once again. I was a highly successful real estate broker in Florida for many years before my divorce. Developing and running that business eventually in our home-state of Georgia is another, yet more longer-term goal, that we have in common. But our number-one goal/priority is…always making ourselves perfect for each other, empowering each other with lasting happiness.