104How I Met Vern

posted by sherliez on August 10th, 2010

“Thanks for making the last year my first, and making it the best when it could have been my worst.”

This is my side of the story on how I met my soulmate, Vernon Parsons III and how our relationship grew each hour every day. God allowed both of us to meet at a time when we least expected it and at a place that most people stay away from.

Prior to this fortunate event, I had depressing incidents that happened in my life that most people won’t be able to tolerate easily. One was the end of a six-year romantic relationship caused by infidelity of my ex-partner and the other was losing a house and lot I invested for years during that relationship. Overcoming my sadness was not very easy for me as I used a lot of my time and effort and lost them all in the end. I did everything to get out of my depression and it involved getting busy like going to the gym, creating a blog, setting my own website, being the best employee, meeting new people especially in the internet. I also decided to accept the help of my brother for me to go to Dubai and re-establish my career in that foreign place. So I was able to get a job there in the middle of their recession but it was short-lived. Eventually I had to go back to the Philippines and restart my life.

So another depressing event and I was wondering if God was torturing me or picking on me too much. Little did I know, He has an ultimate plan for me because ten days after coming home, I met Vernon Parsons III online. Initially there was no romantic intention for me as I was still trying to be strong for myself. We talked about my life and his life, past relationship and what he was doing to meet his next partner in life. Impressing him was not in my list and I was skeptical in his program in trying to find the next one. Before to talking to me, he had a list of candidates to be his next woman and was just in a status quo. He was on it for almost a month and became the internet’s new Dr. Love.

When we talked the first time, we noticed that we were so alike in so many ways and that they were all so hard to resist or ignore. I knew what he was talking about and he knew what I was talking about. We both did not have to upgrade ourselves to mirror each other. The topics we discussed were highly intellectual and very far from romantic topics. So we talked for days until he said he likes me and he asked me if I choose wisdom. It was not a difficult decision for me because I am starting to like him too and so I said yes but I set a rule that he has to talk to me and only me which means deleting his hopeful candidates. He complied right away and said goodbye to them and had a hard time breaking the news to them.

Our love grew deeper as we talked for hours every day using Yahoo messenger. We got to know each other as we had a discussion about ourselves. We had so many things in common in most aspects of our lives. I got captivated on him when I saw that he is a virtuoso in guitar and understand math and computers and mentioned that he can COOK! I learned that he came from a very long marriage that also ended with the infidelity of his wife and how it ended tragically. With this, we both knew that cheating won’t happen in our relationship. Knowing that made me feel secure and that history won’t repeat itself.

It was very difficult for us that we are so very far away from each other. Not many can withstand this pain of not being with their loved one for very long. As we made plans for us to be together and the first was for him to visit me here. He finally met me and my family this March 2010 and I am glad that my family adored him. He brought exotic chocolates from USA and my sweet family was overwhelmed. We also went to an adventure trip to Mt. Province. We spelunked in the complex cave formation in Sagada then we headed to Baguio City for more relaxation. We learned so many things about each other with this 14-day romantic adventure. During this trip, Vern gave me an engagement ring that symbolizes our love and commitment with each other.

As our relationship grew stronger each day, we also made plans for our future. First is our wedding. We were thinking of having a small Catholic Church wedding celebrated by the Society of St. Paul Pius X immediately after my flight from Philippines. It involves attending seminars with the priest prior to the wedding and I hope that we can meet all the requirements without living in sin. We also plan to have another wedding in the Philippines as witnessed by my family as it is important for me too. Second is our marriage life. We are still thinking about the living arrangement since he has an RV, we also have an option to rent the house in Georgia while we were in our honeymoon. In the first year, I would need to acclimate myself with the weather, food, environment and I would need his patience and guidance. Having a job for me at the beginning part of our marriage life is far from our minds but if I need to work, I would surely help Vern when he set his business again. Since we have so many things in common, our hobbies and interests coincide with each other. We like board games such as scrabble and chess. I know he will be teaching me so many other sports like billiards, tae kwon do, and weight lifting. He will also teach me more on music, cooking, winemaking, gemstone making. I will also teach him the Tagalog language so that he can talk to my family easily.

Our relationship is so rock solid that we will have a very productive life as man and wife because I know that we got the best of both worlds.

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